Upbringing and Consequences of Western Culture in Intimate Relationships of Indian Youth!

The beauty of an intimate relationship resides on the way two people see and love each other, the way they trust and are loyal towards each other, the way differences and fights make their relationship grow rather than breaking them, the way they see themselves together, the way they plan their future with each other and a lot more, is indeed an extremely beautiful and serene essence. However, western culture has immensely altered this course of tradition. It has been a blessing and a curse in every aspect of our lives.
Nowadays, youth prefer to try engaging in relationships just to see if they get compatible with someone or can develop feelings for someone without giving any commitment or without the involvement of love in the first place. Movies like “Friends with benefits”, “No strings attached”, “One night stand”, further inspires the people to go for trials or experiment with others to see if it works out or not. If it does, people may tend to stay together yet if it doesn’t people split. Moreover, due to westernization, only physical intimacy has become the sole factor in determining the affection and love among couples. Words like “Boyfriend”, “Girlfriend”, “Relationship”, “Commitment”, “Dating”, are getting depleted day by day and the meaning of such words has been modified completely. At the end, there are building of more trust issues, higher levels of insecurity among us and development of irresistible fears. And few of us who love truly and tend to become loyal in a relationship often are back stabbed by our partners or get hurted for no reason at the end, often end up having psychological disturbances and physical illness as well.
The transparency and purity which used to exist once, the commitment that once persisted, the loyalty which used to felt in my one’s eyes and actions, no longer exists in most of the relationships among the youth of India.
Western culture has no doubt been a blessing in some aspects of our lives however in terms of intimate relationships, it has reduced the pristine essence of an intimate relationship. And it is the responsibility of every youth in India not to imbibe everything which is been radiated through westernization  and to keep the beauty of intimate relationships intact and fruitful.


It’s the little things in life which makes our lives much more huge and special. I met my friend who gave me a chocolate for celebrating my success in my career. The joy and peace I felt was tremendous. It’s really amazing how a small gesture can make a huge difference to you. I’m really thankful to him.


Once you make up your mind towards something and are positive about it, you will achieve it no matter how many roadblocks you may encounter. Don’t lessen the challenges, instead challenge your limits and go beyond them to reach where you have always thought to reach.

Savour the Present


“Be in the moment”, “Live like there is no tomorrow”, phrases which we often hear yet many of us seldom follow. It is enormous how much we have and who all we have; insight of which strengthens the level of resilience and blissfulness within us. Living these aspects mindfully each moment is what makes us be here, in the present and makes something eternal. However, we are caught up in the diversities and coiled rings of life which restricts us to experience every second wholeheartedly. We are too attuned towards our career planning and family sustenance that we are not able to completely feel the moment we are in.

We are either worried about our career building we are engrossed in thinking how and what all do we have to do to accomplish our dreams or we are too much absorbed in the past resolving issues we had faced or trying to build resilience that got distorted due to our past experiences. As a result, we tend to sway like a pendulum between past and future while the reality i.e. today is often neglected by us.

What we have is only a moment of now which if we use effectively can make a huge difference in the level of happiness and contentment in our lives. Savouring, acknowledging and appreciating the Present doubles the happiness, brings serenity and an essence of fulfilment in our lives. It makes us glued to actually living the moment than transiently letting it go. For instance, drinking a cup of tea or coffee and enjoying it means to enjoy and feel each sip of beverage, being aware of it engulfing down from the oesophagus and travelling in the body. Another example can be relishing the times we meet our close buddies through being completely with them keeping aside sources of distractions; giving yourself completely to them and being with them mindfully and not giving only the presence of our body yet souls as well. Technology and other distractions should be kept at a far distance while solely savouring a moment.

Savouring every moment completely requires consistent effort and awareness upon which we achieve an amazingly beautiful feeling and tranquillity which is much higher than any other essence in our lives.

Power it holds!

#Click. #Cafe. #Insight. 

Negativity holds a power which is difficult to stop. It can engulf all the productiveness of any situation or individual. However, a single positivity with utmost vision and force has the strength to beat any negativity that may come or exist. This picture reflects the same. There was darkness, yet as soon as the lamp was lit, the entire surrounding got illuminated with brightness and positivity. It’s beautiful how much power a single positive statement or aspect can hold and to which extent it can empower and enlighten us.

Positive Thinking!

Our brains are evolutionary wired to think negative. The first thought that comes in our mind when something goes wrong is a negative one.
It is a healthy way to be heedful in advance to fight against any danger or challenge that comes our way. However, continuous negative thinking often hinders our entire thought process and sometimes this in turn can make us view a joyous happening also as something that may harm us in some way or may not stay long. A small negative comment by someone lasts much longer than a positive comment. That’s the power negativity holds. To sustain even a positive remark, one has to repeat it several times or takes much more focus to imbibe than the impact a negative one leaves. The more negative we think, more automatic our thought process becomes and it is then less likely for us to think in a positive way. It’s really important to break the vicious chain of pessimistic bias and to shift our focus towards the desirable or a more positive one.
Negative mindset on a long run tends to radiate anxiety, becoming ill frequently, regular headaches, depression, heart diseases, obesity, and many other psychological imbalances in our immune system. While positive attitude allows the upcoming of serotonin and oxytocin, which in turn strengthens our immune system, increases our self esteem, decreases the rate of diseases, disorders and malfunctioning in our body and brain.
Changing our focus towards positive mindset involves:
1. Be Curious: Be curious to know what a particular situation is trying to teach you and how that can make you grow in a productive manner.
2. Gratitude: When you feel low, try writing the things and people you are thankful of and for in your life, read the names slowly and feel the gratitude within you.
3. Savor: Whenever a positive event happens in your life no matter how minor or major that may be, take time to feel it, experience flow in it and store it forever. Positive events take more time to get stored in our memory than negative ones.
4. Stop inner critic: Our only enemy in our lives is “we” ourselves. No matter what happens, don’t try catastrophising or generalising. Just because something has happened once or few times don’t see it as a hallmark and that it will always happen that way.
5. Compassion: Be kind and compassionate towards you and others. It makes you much wiser, healthier and beautiful.
Life is all about balancing our thoughts, walking with a practical and constructive perspective. Seize the day with a positive outlook which will add the magic of enlightenment in your life.

Regulating emotions in workplace to upgrade performance!

Emotional intelligence is the ability to perceive, understand, apply and regulate the blend of emotions which we observe in ourselves and in others. 

In a workplace, the way we express ourselves and the way we feel and consider what is being said to us play a major role in our performance. Staying in equilibrium and sustaining healthy relationships help to make us more constructive in our work. However, imbalances in the way we handle our emotions or sentiments of others ruins our mental stability and reduces the productivity of our performance. We can have a check on ourselves by managing our emotions effectively.

The ways by which we can regulate our emotional intelligence include:

1. Identify your emotions: Recognize what you are feeling. Being congruent with the exact emotion helps to deal with it properly.

2. Think: Think about the reason or trigger for such emotions. It may includes situations or individuals or your own incomplete targets that provoked a particular sentiment. 

3. Reducing Personalization: Being personal and jumping to conclusions about someone’s action is not healthy. Think of various different reasons for a particular happening and try to think of healthier ones more. 

4. Express assertively: After paying attention to your emotions and feelings and keeping the prompt conclusions aside, express your emotions in a healthy and assertive manner.

5. Helping others: Helping in regulation of others’ emotions help to bring harmony in the workplace and in efficiency of the employees.

So, handling emotions at workplace can help us increase the quality of our performance and make us more happier and contented.